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SHE MET ON A DATING SITE WILL NOT MEET WITH HER DEAR
ANNIE: I'm in my mid forties, a bit overweight and plain looking. After many
failedrelationships I finally fell in love with someone who loves me too. We areengaged
and are planning to be married. All's going well, except thatunexpectedly my fiance's
father lost his job and although their family ownsquite a lot of property, my
fiance turned to me for a loan on behalf of his father. I inherited
a sizable amount of money from my parents and it is my one andonly security, I
want to help my fiance's family but I feel uncomfortablejust writing a big check
to someone I'm not even married to yet. Afraid in Chicago. DEAR
AFRAID: You are in a precarious situation, you must not just write a check
toanybody, period, married to him or not. First verify the ownership of allthe
properties which your future father in law claims to own. Guysandlies.com
is a perfect site for that. Also verify his financialstatus. Even if it checks
out that your future father in law is the ownerand will be able to return the
loan that you might extend to him, the loanmust be done legally through an attorney,
your attorney. Be prepared for your fiance to object to my suggestions
or worse, but youmust protect yourself,otherwise you might end up sans fiance
and sans yourmoney. No fiance is bad enough, but to loose both the fiance and
your moneywould be a disaster. Annie
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